Prelude: Happy New Years to everyone. 2013 saw the beginning of what I hope will make an impact in just one persons life: The beginning of a platform that says what nobody else is saying and gives people that same platform to express what they feel without fear of judgement or ridicule. A voice to bring out the unspoken realities of the world in which we live. That is where The Quiet Kid in the Corner shall make their mark. And where 2014 marks the evolution of the revolution. So today, we address a trend that seems to present itself every January 1st that sounds good at the time but never makes it past April. The dreaded “New Years Resolution”.
In today’s lesson, we are going to address 4 New Years Resolutions that people tell themselves every January 1st, that never make it to April 1st. But before diving in, let the Quiet Kid first give a history lesson: The origin of the New Years Resolution. It initially began with The ancient Babylonians as they made promises to their gods at the start of each year that they would return borrowed objects and pay their debts. The Romans made promise to the God Janus, who is the god of beginnings and transitions, for whom the month of January is named after. There are other religious parallels as well, but the basic premise is renewal. A sense of refreshment. Sounds like a great idea until that little thing called reality likes to remind us that a flip of the calendar doesn’t magically take away a year, a decade or even a lifetime’s worth of issues. So here the top 4 most popular resolutions that never make past April 1st.
1) “NEW YEAR, NEW ME”
This one, by far is the most commonly said one every January 1st. And the concept of it sounds great. But this is the one that normally never makes it out the first week. Sure, we make a lot of promises in the midst of drunken stupors and other inebriations. The Quiet Kid has made more than his fair share. But once reality comes back in, as the expression says, “old habits die hard”. By January 2nd, comes the social media post “Not for the drama in the new year”. By January 3rd, “People keep coming at me. It’s a new year. No time for the games”. By January 5th, “If it’s a problem, you know where I’m at”. And by January 7th, they are right back to where they left off December 31st. Personally, the Quiet Kid believes that everyday should be a new you. It should take a flip of the calendar to somehow make the proverbial light bulb come on. That’s just an opinion. But how can a new Year bring a new you if the old you didn’t address last years problems? But that brings me to #2……….
2) “NO MORE DRAMA IN ( INSERT YEAR HERE)”
This goes hand in hand with #1. You think that girl you had a problem with just magically goes away with the flip of the calendar? That issue with that one guy just stops at December 31st at 11:59? That 5-6-7 months of issues decided not to follow you into a New Year? Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but that pain in the ass girl, that lame dude, those “shady” friends, fake people. They all coming with you into the new year. Now, I understand the logic of not wanting the same issues, but if you truly want to carry no drama into a new year, address it before it ever gets to the new year. I Am of the mindset that no issue with a singular person should last longer than the issue itself. Once the conflict dies off, either resolve it with that person or move on from that person. No sense in keeping problem people around if, legitimately ended drama is your primary goal. You are what you surround yourself with. Negativity breeds other negativity. Positivity breeds more positivity. If you want a fresh start into a new year, go in with a fresh mindset. Can’t take last years thoughts into a new year and expect different results. But let me continue on………
3) “(INSERT YEAR HERE) IS MY YEAR”
This one tends to hold on until around March. That Tax money comes in, you make a big move. A car, a house, that trip you’ve been wanting. And it feels good. Makes you feel like that hard work is finally paying off. Then that ugly, harsh thing called reality comes back. When that Tax money is all burned up and you back to that same half wage, half appreciated job. Those bills start piling up a little more because the short term didn’t consider the long term. Or you applied for that job or that school, and it seems that things were turning around until they hire someone else, or the school doesn’t accept you, and you get dejected. Feel defeated. And get complacent with your current situation. Try to convince yourself that somebody else is during worse, so you should be grateful of your situation. Then wait for the next year to do it all over again. We should make every day, our day. Every moment, our moment. Every chance to be great, to be the greatest we can be. No sense in procrastinating to wait for January with what can be done in June. Opportunity presents itself everyday. What is done with it is what decides if this can be a big year…….
4) “I’M TRYING TO LOSE ______ POUNDS”
Another personal favorite. This normally hangs on until around Valentines day. And I say Valentines day, because that Dinner always kills it. Nobody wants a salad on Valentines day. Even The Vegans of the world go and get that Tofu extra cooked to feel like a burger or steak. We want that extra sloppy dinner. That southern fried Greasy Spoon. Go to the finest of restaurants. Or even before Valentines day, with that first “cheat” day. You worked hard, sweated off a few pounds and you say “A cheat day is in order”. So you call up that pizza place, order that cheese steak with the Gravy Fries and the Diet Coke as if somehow that Diet Coke is gonna offset all those calories you stuff in your face. Then the memories come back. That Thanksgiving a Dinner at Grandmas. The Great Breakfast you had for your birthday. That restaurant your homegirl went to celebrate her promotion. And you start eating again. Then those trips to the gym aren’t as fun anymore. That cute girl on the stairmaster suddenly isn’t worth going out the way anymore. You find excuses like “Oh, she don’t look as good as I thought”, trying to convince yourself. Or That Personal Trainer has started working out other women, as if somehow that $19.95 New Years special you on is supposed to keep him afloat and you feel cheated on. You try to tell yourself “Girl, I think he was making a move on me”, never mind all the lust filled thoughts that went through your head, or even the underhanded thirst you may have slid. This one is the hardest of the resolutions for most because it takes the most discipline. Because it begins and ends with YOU. Nobody else. So YOU have to decide and dedicate to it. And sadly, most don’t……..
Now, in the interest of full disclosure, I don’t frown upon anyone who makes New Years Resolutions. Whatever you feel you need to motivate yourself with, I say go for it. But ask yourself, do you really believe or does it just sound good at the time? If you don’t want drama, why entertain the very things that bring it? If it’s a new Year, New You, why bring all the issues of the old You? If this is your year, why not be sure to sustain it throughout the year? Improvement is available everyday. Not just January 1st. Be great on April 15th, July 22nd, October 6th. Strive to be better by the day, not just the year. Until next time……… Signing off…….