Prelude: There seems to be a growing resentment amongst the masses. So much dis-satisfaction. So much resentment toward daily life. So much emptiness and depreciation. People feeling like somehow they lost themselves. As if it has gotten up and run away. I call BS. Nothing is wrong with anyone. It’s about mastering the psyche. Mental toughness and stability. Staying the course, even when the course is diverted. It’s a common punch line in Sports, but never applied to everyday life the way it should. Today will be a proverbial punch In the face for all of those folks selling themselves short.
You are your biggest problem. Let me say that again and throw the ever popular All caps on this : YOU ARE YOUR BIGGEST PROBLEM. Your biggest obstacle. That dead end job, that failed love life, that emptiness that you feel everyday, starts and ends with you. Your mindset. The belief that it takes another to make YOU who YOU are. That’s the biggest bunch of BS anyone can lead themselves to believe. We are all born as individuals. A singular life force. Even if you are a Twin, Triplet, etc, you are still your own individual presence. As life progress from birth, we are always taught as kids: “Don’t follow the leader, be yourself”. Or “Don’t blend in with the crowd, stand out”. But somewhere between those Elementary school talks and high schools popularity, that message changed. “The Cool kids” made everyone want to be like them instead of being themselves. They resembled what status looked like. And that message only became more warped and misguided as we became adults. That first love. That best friend. The person that somehow led you to believe that you weren’t you without them. But as life teaches us all, nothing is forever. That first love came and went. The best friend became something else. The person you couldn’t live without you find yourself living without. Now you are lost. You can’t remember who you are because you were so busy being what someone else wanted you to be. Here’s a couple tips for you to find that light amongst the darken path.
First, remember this sentence. The world will never universally accept you. Somebody, somewhere will disagree with the decisions you make and the path you choose. Fuck Em. Keep that in your head. Fuck Em. The second you start deciding your decision making with the opinions of someone else in mind, you have already lost yourself and might as well enslave yourself to that person for the rest of your days. This isn’t to say in a relationship to not consider your partner, but don’t be afraid to make your own decision and stick with it. If your family are devout Christians and you don’t feel that’s the path for you, make your own decision. If you feel like inter-racial dating is more your thing and your family is old school, do what makes you happy. Family are like friends we don’t get to choose. They gonna always be attached to you but you don’t have to like them all.
Second, When our time on this earth is up, Society may measure us by the impact left on others but honestly, it should be by how much you lived every day to its utmost. Not to what you though somebody else thought you should do. The biggest fear of so many is public ridicule. Fear of not being in the “in crowd”. Joe Budden has a wonderful line from his song “Just to be Different” that I absolutely love: “Why try to fit in when you a standout?” I think it’s a motto that everyone should adopt. Why do what everyone else is doing when you can do what nobody else is doing? Don’t believe that your status in life should be predicated on what someone else is doing. Make your own lame and go full speed through it.
The word Boredom is a word we use as an excuse for not trying something new. Not taking a chance. Fear. With so much knowledge waiting to be obtained, so many memories ready to be made, so much room for us to grow as individuals, It’s no way anyone should ever be bored. As the great Alan Watts said “If you find a passion, you can make it profitable. Somebody, somewhere is interested in the same things you are”. Don’t be afraid to explore the limits of life. Explore the beautiful things that being alive another day brings. Learn from the lessons that being alive another day allows you to learn from. Because when it’s over, that moment we take that last breath, it would be such a shame to have a moment of regret. Until next time…… Signing off.