Prelude: Before I begin to ignite this wildfire, I want to preface my opinion with where the origin of my thought comes from. As most of us with access to social media and the internet probably know, about 2 weeks ago, The Artist formally known as Kanye West was having an interview on the Shade 45 Radio Station with Sway Calloway, a legendary voice in the hip-hop community. Upon being asked if he thinks the Fashion Industry is shutting him out, why not start his own line and market himself, the Artist formally known proceeded to belt out a reply for the ages: “YOU AINT GOT THE ANSWERS, SWAY”. The following 3-4 minutes of dialect are the stuff of legend but it led me to think of a very interesting point in my daily life, as well as the life of anyone with children…….
Now for the Gasoline to this wildfire: ARE WE REALLY RAISING OUR CHILDREN FOR SUCCESS IN THE FUTURE? Think about this before loading up on Barbs and Venomous replies. Are we raising our kids for today or for the future? As Kevin Hart would say, let me explain. When all of us were growing up, how many of us heard our grandparents tell our parents that their generation was out of control, lost all values, didn’t know what was good for them? How many of our parents say that about our generation? How many times have we said that about this next generation? See the continuing trend here? This all comes down to a phrase I love to use when describing the future of the human race: Social Evolution. Just like animals evolve so does the environment around them. Survival instincts change, mind sets change. This isn’t to insinuate that we, as a people, are unfit parents. But just asking the question of how do we prepare our kids for a world we don’t know about? We can teach what we know now, how to move and survive in the world now, but what about 5 years, 10 years from now? How many of us will still be in touch with this next generation at 30,35,40 years old? For every teenager, that we can that message through, it’s 100 that won’t receive it. I normally stay away from the religion topic but it fits well here. The practice of what Christianity was in the early Middle Ages, 13 and 1400’s, where the church was the institution for the cities, is not the case now.
The word may not have changed, but the interpretation of it has evolved as people have evolved. Is this to say that parents at that time, somehow failed to instill those values into their kids, and that they failed to instill it in their kids, and so on? Not at all. But at some point, our kids are no longer going to be kids. They are going to make their own memories, own lessons, own principles. It’s kind of like people who have kids and come across an abundance of wealth. It leads to a dividing point. We always say we want the best for our kids, but also want them to understand the value of hard work and effort. Can’t really have it both ways. Food for thought: If you woke up tomorrow, with 100 million dollars, how does that change how you raise your kids? How do they understand hard work, knowing that they have wealth beyond comprehension? Do you not tell them? It leads to so many different scenarios. We learned our lessons through our own struggles, own moments of clarity, own adversity.
While we do our best to tell our stories and live our lives in the hopes they will understand our message, what do they do when we aren’t around? How do we prepare our kids for life without us? How do we prepare them for a world that hasn’t been created yet? Do our parents understand the world today? Did their parents understand the world before them? If they did, would the world be what it is now? Would the morals and fabrics of our society be what they our now? Do we want our kids to be a reflection of us, or be individuals? Because they can’t be both. Do we want them to make their own decisions or make decisions that make us look like competent parents? Because if they do it for us, are they really being themselves or what they want think we want? It brings me back to my preface about the Artist formally known as Kanye West. The character that appears before our eyes is not the person most of us came to love as an artist. The missing factor? His mother. It segways to my thought: Is the person we see now, Mr West? Or was the person we saw before what he thought would make his mother proud? How many of us know people who came up in quality households, with good hard working parents, but became completely different once that element and structure was removed? Just something to think about as we continue to put forth the effort of molding our kids. Are we preparing them for the future in a present world? Today’s tomorrow? Can we prepare them for a world, we don’t even know? Let’s just give that some thought…… Until next time.. Signing off….
– The Quiet Kid in the Corner